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Post by Oni on Jan 29, 2005 16:17:36 GMT -5
You people have all seen me - I look worse than a warthog drinking vinegar (which can actually be a surprisingly good wake-up call, certainly better than caffeine).
With this incredible handicap in mind, is there any way I can possibly get a girl to like me? Most of you are girls, so if you can't come up with something...plastic surgery is my only option.
Crap.
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Post by Hobbit-eyes on Jan 30, 2005 7:01:57 GMT -5
I know this is one of the oldest cliches in the book, but girls - the only girls worth considering, anyway - like boys mainly for their character, not for their looks.
I mean, yeah, we might notice someone at a party who looks good. But we're more likely to spend all our time talking to someone interesting who makes us laugh.
Except for the shallow ones, but they're not worth bothering with.
Oh, and you don't look like a warthog drinking vinegar. Go get some self-esteem.
But who am I to give relationship advice?
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Post by Oni on Jan 30, 2005 15:18:33 GMT -5
Character is more important than looks? Well, I'm still screwed.
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Post by Hobbit-eyes on Jan 31, 2005 3:23:57 GMT -5
Not as screwed as me. I go to an all-girls school, and the only male contact I have is at my drama club, and those guys really don't count... I have more upper-body-strength than both of them combined...
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Post by Morty on Jan 31, 2005 15:20:26 GMT -5
How often do you talk to girls?
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Post by Boo on Feb 2, 2005 5:50:52 GMT -5
My boarding school (and high school) was peopled with rich kids, filled with the most beautiful girls and boys. Thing is, almost all of them were vacuous dumb and self-obsessed. If you're looking for a model girl, chances are you shouldn't bother. This is a cliche, but it's true: be yourself and let the right one go for you. And it IS true that most girls would rather go for personality and intelligence. So it's not that bad
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Post by Oni on Feb 3, 2005 9:18:25 GMT -5
Mort: I go to a mixed school, I talk to girls every day.
PS: I'm not looking for a model girl. I'm not really looking for an attractive girl in particular - I can't afford to have standards that high.
I'm pretty sure the problem lies in the fact that I'm 'a ****ing weirdo', but this is how I've been since...well, since as long as I can remember really, and everyone here is certainly as weird as I am; you don't (or shouldn't) have much of a problem.
What should I do?
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Post by Hobbit-eyes on Feb 3, 2005 11:12:24 GMT -5
I'd stay yourself. Probability states that there must be around 2-5 people of our level of weirdness in each year in a school - there must be a girl as mad as you somewhere.
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Post by Morty on Feb 3, 2005 11:38:25 GMT -5
Mort: I go to a mixed school, I talk to girls every day. PS: I'm not looking for a model girl. I'm not really looking for an attractive girl in particular - I can't afford to have standards that high. I'm pretty sure the problem lies in the fact that I'm 'a ****ing weirdo', but this is how I've been since...well, since as long as I can remember really, and everyone here is certainly as weird as I am; you don't (or shouldn't) have much of a problem. What should I do? What I meant was do you have any friends who are girls? I've not been on the girl-pulling (excuse the term, ladies) scene for a while for various reasons, but I still believe that many girls like to be friends and get to know a person properly before they jump into a relationship. That's how I perceive it anyway.
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Post by Rodge on Feb 3, 2005 12:10:21 GMT -5
If you're not getting any luck at school, you could always try outside school. What are you into? (apart from chattin on this board, obv!) Why don't you join a club outside school doing something you enjoy? (Sailing, singing, chess, etc etc) Then you can talk to any girls you meet there, and you'll have something to talk about (ie the club and what you're doing). It worked for me! (Apart from the fact i go for guys, not girls... For obvious reasons...)
A mixed choir is always good, cos there's usually about a 4:1 girl to boy ratio.
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Post by Hobbit-eyes on Feb 3, 2005 12:30:54 GMT -5
There seems to be a large girl:boy ratio wherever I go, consarnit...
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Post by Oni on Feb 3, 2005 14:47:53 GMT -5
Mort: Yeah, I have some girl friends. However, years of being picked on have made me extremely paranoid (among other things), and I would not feel comfortable asking one of them out.
Rodge: Other activities? Martial arts three or four times a week, football in the park at the weekends and I help out with an Under-12s team on Saturdays. Of those, only martial arts seems like an option, and again, I wouldn't be comfortable asking a girl there out, partly because when I go there, I undergo a transformation and sometimes get violent.
A mixed choir sounds like a good idea on paper, but there is a reason I threaten to sing people to death.
Katie: Lucky.
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Post by Hobbit-eyes on Feb 3, 2005 15:38:11 GMT -5
Lucky????? Where am I supposed to meet guys????? All the ones I know are either yet to hit puberty, WAY past it, or gay/disturbingly camp!!!
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Post by Paranoid Android on Feb 4, 2005 7:59:24 GMT -5
A bit of completely new advice - if you do getting talking to a girl, don't refer to her or other girls as a chick/bird, or any other sexist name like that. We really don't like it.
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Post by amavi on Feb 4, 2005 15:47:52 GMT -5
Ooooh Frankie...such good advice!! So very annoying is that... However tacky or un-inspiring it may sound, trying to be someone else isn't going to help, and so the best thing to do is actually to be yourself. But if your normal self is a grunting-earwax-eating-bogey-flicking monster, then maybe other advice would be necessary. But I'm guessing you're not so that's alright. Although, I don't really have a wealth of experience...heh...*hides under a bush*
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